Sooo, NYC was amazing.
The conference alone was outstanding, definitely worth every cent (and I still think it was too cheap considering the value within it).
There isn't much of a point in going into details about the business part of it since the majority of the stuff wouldn't be applicable for 99% of people who read this, so I will talk about the takeaway that actually applies to all of us.
The takeaway actually comes from the structure of the conference.
Day 1: Psychology
Day 2: Strategy and tactics
Day 3: Action plan
Psychology
It's simple and so incredibly effective. In order to change something, you need to first believe that you can change it and be fully dedicated to do it.
But how can you develop this?
The first step is just deciding that you actually really want something. This is not enough though. You'll still have doubts like "I'm not sure if this will work for me" and "I'm just not good enough...".
You can do a couple of things to overcome this. Being surrounded by the people who encourage you, believe in you and support you can be extremely valuable. If others believe in you, it's more likely that you'll believe in yourself as well.
Another thing that can help is seeing examples of other people who have already overcame similar issues in the past. Then, your mindset will slowly change to "If other people have done this before, I can do it too!".
Once you are at that stage, you could potentially move on to strategy and tactics, but I like to do one more thing:
Commit to being the best and don't accept mediocrity.
The people who really excel are the ones that aren't satisfied with average results, they strive for perfection. So when you look for strategies, look for the ones that are used by the top performers in the field.
This applies to hiring coaches as well. You can either hire a cheap coach that will get you mediocre results or you could hire a premium coach who will get you to the top.
**This isn't always true, but usually really good coaches have premium rates.
Strategy and Tactics
The next step is the strategy and tactics. What is the difference between those 2?
STRATEGY is the approach of doing something, for example clearing your head by writing things down. This is usually something that works for the majority of people and can be pretty generalized.
TACTICS on the other hand are the specific, actual techniques that you can use. For example, using different systems to store the information that you have written down. You can either use word documents, spreadsheets, a paper notepad... Different tactics will work for different people.
A common mistake that people make is that they don't think about the strategy at all and jump to tactics immediately. They try one, it doesn't work, so they presume that nothing similar will ever work. WRONG!
What I like to do is identify a strategy that successful people use, then test different tactics until I find one that works for me.
Of course you can sometimes use more than one tactic at a time or combine them/invent your own ones. Whatever works for you!
And you can do this too! Whenever you want to improve in an area of your life, you can go through these simple steps:
1) Find out what you want to improve
2) Research the successful people in the field and figure out what kind of a strategy they are using to be as good as they are.
3) Brainstorm/research a couple of tactics that you can use to apply the strategy
4) Test out the different tactics until you find one that works for you!
So it's pretty simple, but it's not easy. It does take a lot of hard work and effort, but that's what it takes if you want to become really good at something. I can show you the way but it's up to you to decide whether you want to stop being a pussy and actually change your life or just keep consuming the information without ever applying it.
I'll give you another example of myself that you can use right away.
Strategy:
Successful people work on improving themselves every single day
Tactics I use:
-Reading books, which give me insights into strategies and tactics that other people use
-Discussing concepts with my mentors/other successful entrepreneurs to get another point of view on my solutions
-Constant self-reflection, taking the time to think how I can actually do things differently/better on a daily basis
Taking Action
Once you have the strategy and tactics, it's all about taking action. I like to write down the things I'm focusing on in the near future as tasks and keep them in front of me at all times.
I suggest that you make a plan for how you're going to actually apply the tactics by breaking them down into small, achievable steps. Ask yourself, "What is the easiest thing I can do just to get this going?". Once you build momentum, move on to harder steps and get it done!
The first part, the psychology, is crucial here and if you aren't in the right mindset yet, don't bother with strategy and tactics. What will happen if you don't have a solid mindset is that you will most likely give up when you run into some problems and jump to another new, temporarily interesting thing (and never finish anything).
Once you're committed and believe in yourself, go move on to strategy and tactics. If you're playing NL100+ and are looking for a trusted advisor to guide you along the way to your goals, take a look at my "Aweseome Life" Mentoring programme. I can show you the strategies that successful people use and save you a lot of time that you would spend researching the information on your own. And you will also get access to a supportive group of my other mentees, which will help you move through the tough times.
-SF
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