Thanks everybody for the comments. Some of them were helpful, others just rude. But that's how it is in general life as well.
The stuff adelaar says makes most sense. I am Dutch, yes, but I do not identify with the Dutch way of living or the society in The Netherlands.
There also was a guy who called me an idiot at first, and later on he thought I was a comedian. LOL! Now that is a clown.
The answers of mods and coaches are usually in favor of the rooms, so they are not neutral. Nevertheless they do have value, since they are experienced and often skilled in the game.
Once more, in variance you can hide a lot, better yet...everything.