Well first this stuff is GTO - so it gives us a rough idea what to do in a vacuum.
if BB 3bets 5% then im playing v. fof, if he 3b 15%+ then ill defend wider than the 33% required.
As for which hands to choose - depends on the nature of villains light 3b range.
• Vs a depolarized range (like the one here): its hard to defend by flatting cause we wont dominate his range + no initiative.
Whats the thing we hate the most in villains shoes? its to 3bet oop ATo and facing a 4b. 3b/fold such a hand is miserable.
so ill increase my 4b bluff range vs him. and would flat hands that wont put me into tough-dominated spots like T9s, 76s etc.
Make sure you construct a balanced 4bet range tho - cause BB has now the option of reshoving and with such a depolarized range hell find plenty of hands that have good allin equity. (a 50/50 ratio is good as a 5b jam for villain usually needs to work ~ 55% at 100bb. mite be hard to do if we 4bet >12-15% in frequency).
So 4b/call 99+, AQ+ is generally doing okay and allows us to have a decent 4b/fold range (dont have equilab now but id say our 4b range for value is about 5-6% so we are "entitled" to 4b/fold about the same). I generally pick up the A9s-a2s, K9s-K5s, Q9s-Q5s hands. easy to remember, blocker, its suited, has high cards/can win at SD sometimes etc).
• Vs a polarized range/top of folding range (like 86s, 45s, A7s, K7s): flatting AQ-AT, A9s, KQ-KT, QJs and stuff becomes much more appealing as we dominate his range. and conversely 4betting and making villain fold 45s is less appealing.
so thats how i choose the hands - have to know the nature of the 3bet range basically.
NB: well in your example youll need to 4b or call much wider than the above ranges/frequencies given how wide you open your btn ^^. But its usually "only" 20% of your hands you have to defend (if we open 60%ish) - when starting to go into some sick preflop wars, most of us forget that the FIRST adaptation to do is - not to defend wider 85s shit and 4bet any high card we see - but to OPEN TIGHTER. allows us to have better freq.
This point mite not be that relvant in your example as well have position postlfop but it SO CRUCIAL CO vs good BTN.